Pregnancy Loss

The loss of a baby is a difficult, painful experience. Suddenly, dreams are shattered and plans must be changed. Though each person responds to loss differently, the need for support and understanding during this time is universal. Sharing feelings, grieving and making unexpected decisions are a necessary part of the healing process.

The time of loss is often lonely and stressful. A woman, in particular, may feel an emptiness in her body and in her arms. Drawing on the strength and support of those closest to her is important. It is also important that a woman take good care of herself physically and trust in her own judgment.

To meet the complex needs of our bereaved patients, we offer a very comprehensive Perinatal Bereavement Program. Our staff is educated on this subject and works together with the Department of Social Services and the hospital clergy to meet the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of the patients and their families.

Additionally, we offer an eight-session bereavement support groups for women and couples following miscarriage, stillbirth or early neonatal death. These groups address the process and stages of grieving in a safe and supportive atmosphere by focusing on individual responses, reactions of family and friends and plans for the future. Individual short-term crisis counseling and volunteer peer outreach services are available as well. The North Shore University Hospital Bereavement Support Program can help you cope with your loss by providing you with the freedom to grieve in an environment that can promote healing and ease your pain and sorrow.

For more information on the Bereavement Support Program, please call the North Shore University Hospital Department of Social Work at (516) 562-8422 or by e-mail.

Web Sites

A Place to Remember

Climb – Center for Loss in Multiple Birth

Compassionate Friends

SHARE Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support

The National Council of Jewish Women – New York Section

Pregnancy Journeys After Loss

March of Dimes

Resolve: The National Infertility Association

Recommended Books

When Pregnancy Fails - by Susan Borg & Judith Lask

Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death - by Sherokee Ilse

Sibling Grief - by Sherokee Ilse

Miscarriage – A Book for Parents - by Joy and Marv Johnson et. Al

Thumpy’s Story – A Story of Love and Grief Shared - by Nancy Dodge

Miscarriage – A Shattered Dream - by Sherokee Ilse & Linda Hammer Burns

Transcending Loss - by Ashley Davis Prend, C.S.W.

Stillborn, The Invisible Death -  by John DeFrain

When Bad Things Happen to Good People - by Rabbi Harold S. Kushner

The Rocking Horse is Lonely - by James D. Nelson

A Woman's Guide to Miscarriage - by Lynn Friedman, M.D. and Irene Daria

Talking About Death (a "read-along" for parents and children) - by Rabbi Earl Grollman

Silent Sorrow - by Ingrid Kohn, M.S.W. and Perry-Lynn Moffitt